Midlife Club

‘HIS Crisis’

This past woman is your Anima. Your fantasy. She is the picture of perfection.  She is your perfect vision. Your wife will not win to compete with such perfection. You can never attain her. She is perfection while you have flaws just like any other human. More »

I would like to offer Paddy’s Six Stages of Midlife Crisis or, more appropriately Six Stages of Paddy’s Midlife Crisis. More »

He’s a 40-year-old father of two pre-teens who is getting ready to end a 15-year marriage. He’s looking for books and guidance to help him through the process of leaving his marriage and setting up a new home for himself and his kids when they come to visit. He hasn’t told his wife he wants a divorce yet and already is considering going into debt to comfortably outfit his new home. More »

Caveat #1: these are my feelings only, and basically are worth exactly that much. I’m not a shrink, I’m not a counselor, I’m just a guy. More »

Midlife Crisis Man probably wouldn’t be as popular as Spiderman if he had he was the star of a comic strip or a movie. Who wants to see a man in tights trying to hang onto lost youth? But Midlife Crisis Man plays a big role in many women’s lives. More »

She said her husband’s grown daughter from a previous marriage has been sending pictures of his grandkids. She’s worried because he’s getting moody and talking about growing old. She’s concerned that he might be starting a midlife crisis.
More »

We men have three basic needs; we will have them until we die. If we are transgressed against in the meeting of these needs we will fight irrationally to meet them. If we feel at a deficit for them we will seek other avenues to get them. We will commit all our energies to achieve them. We are bestowed with greatest honor when we receive them. More »

What does testosterone have to do with midlife Crisis?

Well it doesn’t take too much of a stretch of imagination to understand. We men have always known that “feeling good” and testosterone boosts go hand-in-hand. But now that science has caught up to our grade 9 science class they finally have something to say. More »

From Chapter 1: The Unexpected Journey: When a Marriage Changes-and Why

Rude Awakenings: First Signs of Trouble

Many members of the Midlife Wives Club recall with excruciating accuracy the precise moment they knew their lives would never be the same. Grace had a premonition. Her husband, Roger, had returned to England from a trip overseas. After sleeping late, he said he wanted to take a walk to get some fresh air and buy a paper. More »

Introduction: Welcome to the Club

We are never so defenseless against suffering as when we love, never so helplessly unhappy as when we have lost our love object or its love. – Sigmund Freud, written in 1930, age 74 More »

I was determined not to have a midlife crisis. I had one. The scary part of it all was that the results lasted over a period of about 20 years. By ‘results’, I mean there were unresolved issues that hung on for that length of time. That’s one of the most uncomfortable aspects of a midlife crisis: you’re never really in charge of how – or, in my case, when – they’re going to turn out. More »

We all go through our share of ups and downs in life. One of the most famous examples of a “down” is the male midlife crisis. Whether you believe that the midlife crisis is psychological, physical or a problem with modern society, the fact is that a large number of men must deal with this issue. More »

Life is definitely an adventure and a few years back I decided to change the course of mine and add a little more adventure. I have been in the financial planning and insurance business for more than 25 years and for the most part had enjoyed the profession. More »

For years, many have dismissed the changes that middle-aged men experience both mentally and physically and simply attributed them to mid-life crises. However, we now know these changes are more than just circumstance or because of other extraneous factors, but instead, are largely due to an inevitable decline in male hormones, resulting in andropause, the male equivalent of menopause. More »

According to Daniel Levinson’s research into man’s evolutionary Seasons, only 20 per cent of people find themselves in a manageable transition period; a time in which they attempt to understand themselves and the changes they are experiencing; a period in which to come to terms with their losses and explore possibilities for growing and enriching their lives. More »

“What animal walks on four feet in the morning, two feet at noon, and three feet in the evening, yet has only one voice?” ~The Riddle of the Sphinx More »

I’ve been away… yes I have. But all that’s behind me now, and this month is shaping up to be a transitional one. I’m needing to take my business from a disappointing conclusion with the end of 2008 into something even more dynamic and transformational as we move more deeply into 2009. More »

The closing decades of the twentieth century have seen the glorification and worship of Youth Culture. The ubiquitous Yuppies have overtaken the world by storm. They are knowledgeable, incredibly dynamic, prodigiously intelligent, powerful and ambitious. More »

What happens to a marriage when a middle-aged man decides he’s unhappy with his life and the current players? It’s commonly referred to as “midlife crisis” and it puts more marriages in the dumpster than perhaps any other single cause. More »

After 23 years of marriage, he moved out of their home and is living with a male friend. Since then he says her he has fallen out of love with her and doesn’t want to “compromise his life” any more. He also has admitted to a very brief affair, a few years ago, which he didn’t enjoy. He blames her for his unhappiness and wants a divorce. She is in therapy. More »

The phrase “midlife crisis” is an increasingly used catch-all phrase used to explain away a person’s bad behavior regardless of their age. The following are a few clues that the man in your life may be heading for, or in the midst of, a midlife crisis. More »