Midlife Club

‘Midlife Divorce’

I’d been having a bad week. I’d been divorced for a little over a year and my new relationship was developing a few problems. My career wasn’t going as well as it could, and minor irritations were starting to get blown out of proportion. I remember thinking that things couldn’t get any worse. More »

When divorce ends your marriage, you may believe your situation is unique and unprecedented. For you it is, but millions of people are dealing with and surviving divorce every day and you can, too. More »

She wanted to know how she could move on after her 19-year marriage ended when her husband left to be with someone from his past. The marriage hadn’t been a good one for quite a few years but it took her a long time to decide that she’d rather be out of it than deal with all of its dysfunction. What she was having trouble with was moving past the memories. More »

As you work your way through the black hole of divorce, memories of particularly good times that you and your soon-to-be-ex husband or wife shared together will surface. You may hear a song, or find a photo, or someone will say something that triggers the memory. The pain will get deeper, or your anger will grow stronger. More »

“I love him and I don’t want to lose him. I am so desperate to save my marriage!” It’s a familiar plea… the need to force a husband or wife to stay in a marriage they’re attempting to flee. More »

Having a marriage fail at midlife does not mean you won’t meet and fall in love again. Most likely you will. Just how successful that marriage will be has a lot to do with how you handle the baggage both you and your new love bring to the marriage. More »

Having had two marriages end during the “midlife years,” I have a slight advantage understanding why aging has the potential to blow a marriage apart. More »

Midlife can be a dangerous time for marriage. Some marriages won’t survive. Some marriages will be patched back together but key ingredients will be missing. Some marriages will be made even stronger. More »

The term “midlife crisis” is used to encompass a great many reasons why people do the damaging things they do to destroy their marriage. Midlife crisis is sometimes used to brand any type of unsuitable behavior within a marriage, even if the person is years away from midlife. More »

It’s a wonderful thing to be in love with another person. Before your marriage fell apart you knew what it was to be in love and loved by someone else, didn’t you? More »