The Midlife Club

‘Q&A’

Q: I’m a member of the Midlife Club forum. I want to change my password. Can you help me?

A: Log in to your account then go to Go > Personal Zone > Profile. Click on the View/Edit Profile link to the right. You can then change your password by clicking Edit just above your email and password.

Q: Our marriage has been rocky for many years but I never dreamed my husband would suck the life out of me by having a relationship with a 20 something woman. It has now ended but I will never be the same.  I started counselling today but feel I can’t get over the pain.

A: Counseling is an excellent start. No, you never will be the same and neither will your marriage. You say the marriage has been rocky for many years. This will either help fix it or break it entirely.

Q: This is quite a difficult message for me to write. But in summary my husband had a midlife crisis last year (and I believe that it was coming on for a longtime). I have never been able to prove that anything happended but he certainly put out alot of signals that he was having affairs. I strongly believe that he mostly did it because he became very depressed with himself and life and used me as the scapegoat. And in addition he had at least one friend who helped him and has told him that it is perfectly okay for men to cheat. More »

Q: ok.. i have been going through some bad time’s with my spouce, he’s 48 and the last couple of mounth’s he has started drinking, very depressed, has pushed me and the kids away, and it’s tearing us apart. he doesnt spend time with us at all. he make’s excuses why we can’t talk, we lost our home two yrs ago and now live in a 5th wheel trailer, he feel’s that it’s his fault, which it isnt, he was laid off. he’s working now and has been, but between the bill’s and his child support. he cant make it. he feel’s like his has let his family down, and he say’s he’s a loser. im scared im gonna loose him.

A: Too many issues here for a quick answer. Join the Midlife Club forum and read, read, read. You’re dealing with the same issues that many members are dealing with. You can learn from their experience and ask for their support.

Q: I can’t get into the forum under my old account. I have re-registered with my new email address. Can you switch my new email address to my old account so I have access?

A: I see that you did access the forum under your old account today. I need you to access your old account, send me a PM through the forum, and then I will be able to link the old and new emails together. Right now, I can’t verify that these emails belong to the same person. This is just a precaution I take especially when the IP addresses don’t match either.

Q: I think I registered two years ago and now totally forgot my password or my user name. Please help I wanted to get back in.

A: Your user name would be your email address. If you don’t know the password it will be emailed to you. Otherwise you need to register again.

Q: I just wanted to say thank you for this site – it has been invaluable. I didn’t realise why my considerate, loving, sweet partner had suddenly turned into someone who became annoyed by everything I do (and have always done), but after reading articles on your site, it all makes sense.

Thank you so much for your site – it has really helped me. I stupidly believed that (as he said) I was the cause of the discord in our relationship, but now I realise it isn’t my fault and no matter how I change, I’ll never be what he wants, because he doesn’t know what he wants.  More »

Q: Which Support Group do I choose if its ‘MY HUSBAND’ who has the deal? (Midlife etc.) Thank you! HumptyDumptyEtte

A: Since you CANNOT change your husband, you will have to learn how to deal with the current situation. Join the Midlife Club Forum and read, read, read.  You’ll see how other wives are handling the crisis their husbands’ actions are putting them into.

Q: Hi:  How do I access the non-video chat rooms?  I don’t see any links to them.

A: They are accessible through the Midlife Club forum. If you sign up for the forum you will have access to them.

Q: Ohmigoodness, I needed to read this.  Everything in here is absolutely true.  How can I email this page so I can pass it on, and thank you for putting this on paper.  I have a 6′3 mess on my hands and he claims no responsibility for it.  Powerful words that I needed to read.  Thank you so much.

A: To email the HIS Midlife Crisis page, paste this link: http://midlifeclub.com/his-midlife-crisis into an email. If you’re planning to email the page to him so he can see himself and straighten up, you’ll be wasting your energy.