Q: Our marriage has been rocky for many years but I never dreamed my husband would suck the life out of me by having a relationship with a 20 something woman. It has now ended but I will never be the same.  I started counselling today but feel I can’t get over the pain.

A: Counseling is an excellent start. No, you never will be the same and neither will your marriage. You say the marriage has been rocky for many years. This will either help fix it or break it entirely.