Midlife Club

The morning after François Mitterrand’s funeral, a photo showed the late president’s mistress and illegitimate daughter standing by his grave alongside his wife and sons. That tableau has become famous internationally as proof that the French are uniquely tolerant of extramarital affairs. More »

Everyone puts on a show to impress someone at the beginning of a relationship.  You meet a guy, you feel a connection, and you want the connection to develop into something stronger.  You don’t want him losing interest in you and moving on, so you exaggerate a bit to keep him interested. Guys get that.  It’s only natural. More »

I am about 2.5 years into a midlife crisis, and have had some insight into my situation, but I am still struggling and have not moved on either with my wife or another person. I am doing a lot of soul searching, reading, meditating, praying and both spiritual and psychological counselling. More »

Times have changed. The days of Rhett Butler telling Scarlett O’Hara he didn’t give a damn are long gone. That’s a shame in some ways. At least it made dating simple. Nowadays, guys try to be considerate in an attempt to not hurt your feelings. His miscues make it hard to know whether he’s really into you, just wants to be friends or would love for you to switch phone plans. While words might not be his strong point, his actions are. Keep an eye out for these kinds of behavior. More »

I would like to offer Paddy’s Six Stages of Midlife Crisis or, more appropriately Six Stages of Paddy’s Midlife Crisis. More »

It is almost two years since the first bomb drop. And the up and down of denying another woman and finally saying that there was. Then minimizing it because it was just an emotional affair and not sexual. This is what I have learned from this board: More »

A few things I want to impart to all of you that are new here is this: hold on to yourself, search your soul for answers, not your spouse’s words. If they are in crisis their words will only control and confuse you. More »

Q: My 40, soon to be 41, husband just walked out after 10 years of marriage. I never thought he was the type to do this. None of his reasons made since and I was distraught. Then I fell upon your site and read HIS Midlife crisis and most, if not all my questions were answered. He even stated in a letter that this was not a midlife crisis. I have never logged onto a forum before so could you please give me some instruction and pointers. More »

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Q: do u have any information from couples who’s marriage have survived the husband’s mid life crisis? also how long does mlc typically take?

A: There is no “typical” time when talking about midlife crisis. It will be done when it is done. It isn’t an illness that can be “cured,” it is a life transition that resolves over time. More »