The Midlife Club

Q: Need some support and help to deal with my wife’s midlife crisis. I know time and patience is key but what else is there to do? I do not want a divorce, I want to stay married to her, however i do not think the same is true from her. What to do?

A: It really doesn’t matter what you want if her mind is made up. What to do? Join the Midlife Club forum and read, read, read, and read some more and see how others have dealt with the exact same situation. This is new for you but it’s an old story to members of the forum.

Q: Can you tell me where I can go to “group’ meetings about “Mid-Life” crisis?  Somewhere in Los Angeles?  West Hollywood, Beverly Hills, or nearby???  HELP!!!!!

A: There are ongoing “virtual group meetings” on the Midlife Club forum including real time chat. We do not have organized meetings or group sessions. If you’re dealing with marital issues, you might also look for a local DivorceCare group.

Q: I got the “speech” in febuary of this year after 28 years he doesnt love me and hes not attracted to me He says the clssic stuff I should have seen this coming I could go on and on. Our daughter and 3 sons are in a crisis / daughter was in rehab now her and our three grandsons are living with us for now.  My life is a mess and until febuary I thought I had the best marriage in the world I could go on and on but I wont. HELP!!!

A: Your story is repeated time after time on the Midlife Club forum. Register for the forum then read, read, read, and continue reading. This takes time, there are no quick fixes or fast answers.

Q: To join this club, I just wanted to know what is “live cloud” and why do I have to sign in that in order to join here? What is live cloud and what does it have to do with you? Thank You.

A: LiveCloud is the company providing the forum service we use. They do not control the Midlife Club forum, they are the hosting company. You do not have to purchase any of their extra services in order to be a member of the Midlife Club forum.

Q: Hello;  i’am very upset. my husband came home and told me ha is not happy; did not see this coming . I am totally shocked. I asked him what he is not happy about he says he doesn;t know. please give me advise.

A: Same advice as given to everyone else: register and join The Midlife Club Forum, then read, read, read, and read some more. Almost everyone there has a similar story. There are no quick answers.

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