Q: My 40, soon to be 41, husband just walked out after 10 years of marriage. I never thought he was the type to do this. None of his reasons made since and I was distraught. Then I fell upon your site and read HIS Midlife crisis and most, if not all my questions were answered. He even stated in a letter that this was not a midlife crisis. I have never logged onto a forum before so could you please give me some instruction and pointers.

A: Sign up for the forum, read the email that will be sent as soon as you register and click through the validation link. After that, you will be able to log on using your email address and password.

DO NOT use your real name as your forum ID. Keep your comments free of names or locations in order to provide anonymity for yourself and family/friends. This is the internet and regardless of the registration requirements for the forum, anyone who wishes to join the forum can. This means spouses, co-workers, family and friends. Only post what you’re comfortable with the “world” reading.

Once you have entered the forum, spend the first several hours reading through posts. You’ll be surprised how similar most stories are. Then, when you’re ready, post your story or post comments to threads started by others. Your story should be started on a new thread.

The forum has a Newcomers Guide as well as forum info that you’ll want to review.

Sorry to see you here. But you’re no longer alone.