Midlife Club

‘Survivor Wisdom’

I am about 2.5 years into a midlife crisis, and have had some insight into my situation, but I am still struggling and have not moved on either with my wife or another person. I am doing a lot of soul searching, reading, meditating, praying and both spiritual and psychological counselling. More »

I would like to offer Paddy’s Six Stages of Midlife Crisis or, more appropriately Six Stages of Paddy’s Midlife Crisis. More »

It is almost two years since the first bomb drop. And the up and down of denying another woman and finally saying that there was. Then minimizing it because it was just an emotional affair and not sexual. This is what I have learned from this board: More »

A few things I want to impart to all of you that are new here is this: hold on to yourself, search your soul for answers, not your spouse’s words. If they are in crisis their words will only control and confuse you. More »

For those who have just found themselves in this situation, not all midlife marriage problems are due to “mid-life crisis”, but midlife can be a stressful time for marriages. More »

A lot of the posts on this board have talked about still loving the person who is having the midlife crisis. That is to be expected, and for a very long time. More »

First, NONE of us knows how we or our wayward spouse or anybody else will feel from one day to the next, let alone months down the road. As you pointed out, he was writing loving things up to the point where he walked out! So there is absolutely no telling if or when he might have yet another major change of heart. More »

I spoke with six lawyers before I hired one. Five of the six had about the same information and plan, the sixth was just out for bloodsport (and my money, I think). I checked and the facts he gave me were wrong – either he was misinformed or misleading ME. More »

Whether you’re a left behind spouse or in midlife crisis, there is a common theme of “taking care of you” that gets talked about frequently and for good reason. Unfortunately when we are in the middle of crisis in our lives, the concept gets absolutely lost in the daily stress. More »

If I am completely honest, some good things have come out of the pain. I have a long way to go, but I wanted to share my success. I was too involved with my adult daughter. I had almost an unhealthy bond with her because I was worried about her mental health all the time. I tried to save her from hurt and financial problems, terrible bosses, etc. and by doing this, she took a lot of my energy. (Probably away from where I should have been focusing.) More »